One of my favorite moments is when he decides, after we've been playing for awhile, to make himself cum. It's the intimacy of showing me that. Very sexy. Often I am lying there beside him, whispering aphrodisiacs into his ear, my naked body pressed close to his. Letting me "see" the "money shot" with my own eyes is very erotic.
I agree, there is something absolutely intimate about being let into your partner's safety zone while masturbating... such a place of love, it turns me on soooo much!
What a beautifully done thread! Bobbi - from your past relationships and lovers, do you think men have as much to learn from thoughtful self-pleasure as women? When I picture a man masturbating, it's usually quick, and focused on getting to orgasm sooner rather than later. What tips and tricks have you seen your lovers do, or what new things have you taught them about how to enjoy self-pleasure more? “According to Greek mythology, when Zeus and Hera went to the hermaphrodite Tiresias in order to determine who experiences more pleasure from sex, men or women, Tiresias responded, 'If the sum of love’s pleasure adds up to ten—nine parts go to women, only one to men.'" Excerpt From: Ian Kerner. “She Comes First.” iBooks.
I totally believe that... I cum frequently and hard... the pleasure rebounds through my body and the aftershock lasts and lasts. Often - when I get up to a certain level - I can just stay there and get orgasms like waves rolling onto the shore one after the other. I am SO GLAD to be a girl!
Awww, thank you so much @Broadhildt! I think everyone can learn a thing or two about self-love and thoughtful self-pleasure through masturbation, regardless of their gender! I do agree that men do have an innate tendency to rush things, which is where he can learn from the woman's tendency to start slower, and build up greatly over time. Whereas men and women can quickly force out an orgasm as a means of stress-relief, a full-body, full-blown, mind-blowing orgasm is the best gift one can give themselves-- after experiencing one with me, my lovers haven't needed any further convincing that it's worth the time you put into it! I think the key difference here is teaching men to "unlearn" certain things they may have learned unintentionally throughout their lives and their relationship to sex. I think the main key is getting men to first experience the nine parts that go to women (in reference to your quote); to realize the difference between ejaculation and orgasm first hand, and teaching them to value the patience it takes to achieve it.
I am SO thankful we are able to embody the full-body and multiple orgasm with so much ease as ladies!
I love this post!! I love playing with myself at night after a long days Work and, anticipating the next day Sent from my VS425PP using Tapatalk
I can't decide which I like more... Watching a man, or woman pleasure his/herself so I can see how to please them better based on how they please themselves, or pleasing myself in front of my partner so they can learn and finish the job... good thing I don't have to choose just one of those options!!!
I can totally relate @LexieJames! I can never decide if I'm more of an exhibitionist or voyeur... I love them both just the same!
Thank you for creating this thread, Bobbi! Masturbation is very healthy, and deserves just as much recognition and praise as any other healthy habit that helps us live higher quality, less stressed lives. So let’s all eat a vegetable, get a flu shot, put a dollar in the donation box, and rub one out!
Ooooh @Old Nick that sounds like way too much fun, I'd love to try it sometime with you! Thanks for the compliment, I'm glad you enjoyed reading it! XOXO, [email protected]
It’s one of the hottest things ever. I love watching a lady rub one out, and I love lady watching me.
There is s different level of intensity when you orgasm from masturbation versus an orgasm from having sex with someone. Also I've found with my size women get turned on watching me stroke off. Haha
I wonder how the "old wives tale" excessive masturbation may lead to blindness came about. So if a bloke happens to be squinting incessantly a la Gilbert Gottfried and he's got forearms like Popeye the sailor man, that just might be a tell tale sign?
Miss Bobbi Besos, I have found that masturbation helps me with my prostate levels when I have my yearly prostate exam. My PSA level from my last exam in Jul of this year was at a 1.4.