Tips for Dominating Your BDSM Sex Slave

Posted by Alice Little on February 9, 2017

With the release of Fifty Shades Darker this week, America’s interest in BDSM is at an all time high. You see it on the news and read about it in magazines, but what you aren’t witnessing is the reality of what it’s like to really take part in a BDSM session. Here at America’s Red Light District, ladies like me are proficient in being not only dominant, but also submissive participants in bondage sex parties. The BDSM specialists at Dennis Hof’s legal Nevada brothels cater to clients with a desire to take control and be sexually dominant. Many BDSM-acquainted working girls like me are eager and willing to accommodate these fantasies and turn them into reality, as long as all parties agree to the rules and mores associated with dominating a licensed sex worker. Do you want to be Christian Grey? I’ll be your Anastasia Steel, but there are a few things you should know before putting your Grey tie on…

Negotiations are Mandatory

It is imperative that we take the time beforehand to sit down and discuss our needs, desires, interests, as well as things that we are not comfortable with. It can be very helpful to write these things down. Think of it like a safety check list. The first thing you want to discuss is “safe words.” A safe word is a way to communicate important information without interrupting the scene. The most commonly used safety words are color coded: “green,” “yellow,” and “red.” “Green” means all good,  keep going! “Yellow” means slow down — this may mean turn down the intensity, or pause for a few moments. If someone calls “yellow,” you’ll want to halt activity momentarily to discuss what needs to happen. Red means everything stops, any bondage is undone, and the scene is ended. It is very rare to use “red” if you’re playing with safe words, because any potential problems can be addressed using “yellow.” An example of a time to call “red” would be if you were having an asthma attack (this has happened to me in the past), or a similarly unexpected medical emergency. 

Other things to discuss during negotiation are prior experiences you may have had with BDSM, what things you enjoyed during those experiences, and what things you would change. This helps to let your sex worker know your experience level, as well as things that you aren’t fond of. It’d absolutely be worth it to take the time to negotiate in advance, as it will improve the quality of your scene tenfold. There are multiple books on BDSM on the market, if you’re seriously interested in researching BDSM prior to your arrival at the brothel.

This is also the time to discuss aftercare: the period after our scene ends, and our adrenaline is still pumping. many times this involves a light snack, cuddles, and pleasant conversation.

Take Control

You’re the Dominant. Establish what it is you are looking for! don’t be afraid to speak up and communicate your preferences on everything from what I wear to how I should present myself before you. If you’re unsure of how to do this, just ask —  as an expert I’ll be able to guide you through the process, and help you feel assured in your role as Dominant. Many men exploring domination for the first time are apprehensive about taking control and telling me what it is they really want me to do. After we negotiate and establish our parameters, don’t be afraid to give in and take what is yours. Submission is a gift — when I kneel before you, and offer you my neck, I’m trusting you with my safety and well being. in return, I’m asking for you to seize that control. The power exchange aspect of BDSM is incredibly erotic when we’re both fully committed.

A part of committing fully also involves taking on the persona you’ve so chosen. If you’re dominant, wear something that makes you feel in control. Use affirming body posture, and a confident tone of voice when giving commands. This gives me, the submissive, something to work of off and respond to. A great example of this is requiring me to respond to everything you say with “Yes sir.” Those two words are simply electrifying to hear from a beautifully bound lady who’s fully exposing herself to you, body and soul.

Enjoy the Ride

There is no place on earth other than the legal brothels of Nevada where every wish, whim, and fantasy is possible. Take advantage of your time here to fully indulge in every encounter that strikes your fancy. By making the most of your time with me, you’ll have a life changing experience that you’ll always be able to look back on and appreciate. There is so much that can be learned from being Dominant — that powerful feeling in your very core is one that you can translate back to the real world. The confidence you’ll gain from a BDSM encounter with me doesn’t end with our time together, it carries forward, so long as you continue to personify those dominant traits. BDSM is something I’m very passionate about. I could talk for hours about how a single session can and will change your life. I invite you to enjoy the ride, seize control, and become the powerful dominant person you’ve always known yourself to be. I’m willing to be the slave you’ve been yearning for, and the teacher you need.