How To Have Great Sex With Erectile Dysfunction

Posted by Bryce Stevens on December 15, 2016

According to the Massachusetts Male Aging Study, 52% of men ages 40 to 70 years reported some form of ED.  Of the 52%, 17% had mild symptoms, 25% moderate, and 10% severe.   Erectile Dysfunction is much more common than we think. 

Short or long term ED (Erectile Dysfunction) brought about by meds, health or aging, can be a feared source of embarrassment to many men who fear they will now be unable to please their partner, and having ED will mean the loss of their sex life.  They feel emasculated, impotent and less of a man.  And while intercourse may no longer be possible, you can still have a great and satisfying sex life by learning new ways to give and receive pleasure. 

Intercourse is only a small part of the countless avenues to give and receive pleasure, and studies show that a large portion of women do not orgasm this way.  Plus as people get older they find that orgasm is not the big goal it once was.  In fact it becomes less and less important, and what becomes more gratifying is connecting, sharing of intimacy, touching, romance, kissing, feeling close, loved.   

We mostly have the mindset that fucking is the destination and all other things are foreplay leading up to that.  But what if fucking is the foreplay and the real objective is experiencing one another, sharing intimacy, sensuality and connection, and all else is just a byproduct.

With this mindset, having ED can open up a whole new world of exploration in touching, kissing, intimacy, closeness and sensuality between you and your partner, that’s not just physical, but mental and emotional as well.

On the physical front, studies have shown it’s easier for women to orgasm from oral sex or the use of a toy, such as a vibrator, than to cum from vaginal sex.  When a guy knows how to lick pussy really well, it’s a very good thing.   Too often men want to zero in on the sex organs in an attempt to please their partner, and don’t think of giving full body, mind pleasure.  There’s ways to touch that are so erotic, so sensual, and feel so amazingly good.  And there’s ways to kiss the mouth and body that are so damn sexy, so damn arousing.   

Remember the entire body is an erogenous zone, with the mind being the greatest of them all.   Learn to stimulate your partner and turn them on mentally and emotionally, as well as physically.   Foreplay isn’t just sexual, nor is it just the physical stuff before sex.  Foreplay is also a series of emotional events used throughout the day and week to turn your partner on, emotionally and mentally, by making them feel special, validated, appreciated and noticed.   Ways to do this could be as simple as making a point daily to look for the good in them, and express appreciation for the things they do. 

A great form of emotional foreplay is that of impeccable listening skills. If you want your partner to feel really special, try looking at them as they speak, and hanging on their every word as though they are of life and death importance to you.  Hear what they’re saying, and what they mean.  Good listening skills in a man are very, very sexy.  Having someone focus all their attention upon you, and take a genuine interest in you is a very potent kind of foreplay.   It should be taught as part of foreplay 101. Another sexy turn on for women is a man who repairs things around the house for her, carries things for her, does chores and helps with kids. 

Make the time you spend together fun.  Have interesting things to talk about.  It’s also a good idea to ask one’s mate what makes them feel special.  Because what makes one person feel special is different from what makes another feel special.

I think most women would agree that good emotional and mental foreplay is much more satisfying and arousing than intercourse.  And if you pair that with stellar pussy licking skills, plus knowing how to touch and kiss for maximum pleasure, your sex life can metamorphose into a richly satisfying and rewarding experience for both you and your partner.   Knowing how to kiss and touch is very important.    Give more time for slow, voluptuous kisses all over your lover’s body, from head to toe; also in cuddling and caressing.

When touching, don’t just go for the genitals.  That’s boring.   Let these be the least of your focus, and touch her everywhere but there.   The same rule applies for pussy licking.  Don’t zero in on the clit and forget the rest.  Do the entire pussy as your main focus.  You can give a woman G-spot orgasms, clitoral orgasms and more, with skillful use of your tongue. 

A lot of women have stronger orgasms from being held close with lots of kissing, and use of a vibrator than from standard coitus.   

Explore going into sex with no agenda or destination other than the giving and receiving of pleasure.  This tiny adjustment can work wonders for one’s sex life.  It also takes the pressure off of having to perform.   

Erectile Dysfunction need not be the end of your sex life.  Whether or not you’re in a relationship you can have a truly rich and rewarding sex life with ED.  In my ED parties we connect and share intimacy on a deep level, while sharing intensely pleasurable ways of touching, kissing, and of giving and receiving pleasure. 

Don’t let ED keep you from experiencing deep levels of intimacy and pleasure.  If you don’t have a sex partner, you can make the most out of your ED by visiting a sex provider at the Nevada brothels who is specialized with ED.    Who knows, your ED could be a blessing in disguise that leads to new sensual and sexual horizons.