To Faithful Men Who Chose Monogamy, But Not Celibacy
Posted by Amelia Heart on October 16, 2017
She’s the love of your life. She’s beautiful, and you always want her. But, lately, something has been missing… As much as you’d like to fulfill all your intimate desires with only her, and as much as she’d love to reciprocate, it’s just not possible right now. You’ve tried everything, and it’s not working. A part of you is slowly suffocating; you signed up for monogamy, not celibacy.
The physical repression has begun to take a toll on the rest of your relationship and your ability to care for her. You still have every intention to stay by her side to the very end, just as you always vowed, but you know that if you don’t start taking care of yourself, you won’t be able to continue being the partner she deserves. If only there were some way to seek the relief and comfort that you need to stay strong and supportive for her when she needs it most…
I’ve recently encountered several clients who are happily married, in love and lust with their spouses, but, due to physical, neurological, or mental health limitations, their wives are unable to continue intimacy at the level they desire (if at all). Some prognoses are only temporary, while others may be permanent or terminal. These clients find that the inability to continue to express themselves in intimate ways leads to a core part of themselves becoming deprived, which is damaging the relationship and inhibits their ability to live up to what they promised as a faithful spouse.
I’d personally like to commend those who dig deep to consider what they were really committing to when it came to choosing to love and support one person for the rest of their lives — those who can think about what it means to “put your own oxygen mask on first” in order to take care of another. We all have needs as human beings, and sometimes truly caring for someone else means rethinking superficial constraints and choosing to transcend the physical boundaries that were enacted under different circumstances, when there were no limits on fulfilling intimate desires between partners.
I have to express great admiration for those clients who have reached out under these circumstances, because it goes against a lot of traditional understanding of what it means to be married and faithful to one’s partner. But, when intimacy isn’t possible with the one you love most in the world, the psychological devastation of denying that part of yourself altogether can undermine all other efforts to care for them.
Fortunately, a solution exists: we, the courtesans at the legal brothels in Nevada, are experienced in surrogate intimacy and can help to bridge this gap. We are here for emotional support, physical closeness, and friendship through these difficult times. While what sets us apart from other platonic support structures is the physical connection we provide, the psychological side effects of reconnecting with this part of oneself can be even more profound. One recent client stated to me in a private message, quoted with his permission:
“Within hours of calling the Bunny Ranch to book that first party […], I experienced a change in attitude, outlook, and the way I interacted with my family and friends. That is, just knowing relief was on the way precipitated a profoundly positive change, a few weeks ahead of my actually being at the ranches.”
If you are struggling with the challenges of being in a loving, committed relationship that no longer provides an outlet for sexual release, I invite you to consider the opportunity to find that outlet here in a safe, discreet way that supports your desire to care for your partner in all other ways. Remind yourself what it was like to experience all the physical pleasures; I promise I won’t take offense if you find yourself thinking about her the whole time you are with me. In fact, I hope that you do.
Amelia Heart
A slender, all-natural brunette, Amelia Heart is a confident, compassionate, and open-minded woman seeking to share all the vitality and spirit of life, of which sensuality and sexuality are such important components. She is currently seeing clients at Dennis Hof's Kit Kat brothel near Reno, Nevada.
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Hello, I found your article very interesting as I am in a very similar relationship. We have been married for 42 years and our relationship has evolved into this. She is no longer able to be intimate. If services as your”s were an option here it would be a huge help. But in the middle of a corn field, they are not. Anyway, I found your article very informative and helpfull
Glad you found it helpful; I hope you are able to find solutions that work for you in your situation, and we’ll be here if you have a chance to venture this way!
Same here Lloyd
I’ve been married more than 20 years, the last 12 or so being nearly celibate. I can count on one hand the number of times my wife and I have had sex in the past ten years. Some say I should leave, but I stay because I want to be there every day for my child.
I had an affair a few years ago, but it got messy when my girlfriend wanted me to leave. She was right, in that I wasn’t being fair to her. I wanted to leave, but stayed in my marriage out of a sense of parental duty.
Earlier this year, I started seeing an independent escort in my hometown. She has made all the difference in the world to me. She takes care of my needs for intimacy, which has decreased my stress level and improved my mood dramatically. From my perspective, she has saved my marriage, or at least made it tolerable again.
Maybe in a few years I’ll be in a position to divorce and begin dating again. Until then, Escorts are lifesavers! Thank you, ladies, for being there for men like me.
That is a challenging situation! I’m glad you’ve been able to find an outlet that works for you where you are. 🙂
I absolutely love this article, Amelia. I love the way you took such care and sensitivity in writing this. We can provide such a wonderful gift and necessity to those in this situation and that is just one way this job is so special.
PS: Love the new photos! The straight hair looks bomb.com on you 😀
Thank you, Ruby! I’m sure you have been a comfort to many men in this situation as well. 🙂
I’m sure you both have. Unfortunately, this situation is all too common and it cuts both ways. There are, likewise, many married women who suffer silently and needlessly.
What you have written goes against everything I was taught growing up, but having lived with the lack of any intimacy for all most 10 years, I whole heartily agree with you. I have been married for 40 years and there is to much invested for us both to divorce. Luckily I met a lady who was very understanding and supportive of my situation. But having recently moved I no longer have that connection except long distance. If I’m ever in your area I will certainly consider contacting for a date. Thank you very much for your thoughts on this subject. Again I think you are right on.
Thank you for sharing your story and perspective, GRL! I’m glad that hearing this is helpful to you. I’ll look forward to seeing you if you visit!
Thank you Amelia for a well written article. I relate to this especially mental illness part. My wife has bipolar disorder which has its ups and downs. I still love her as much as I did when I met her in college. We have been married for 25 years after dating for 4 years. So, we have been together for almost 30 years. I have no intention of leaving as her mental illness is not her fault. I still love her and continue to stay along side of her as she goes thru the challenges. Last year was the first time I visited a brothel. I can tell you that it made a big difference for me to have the intimacy in a safe and discreet setting. I appreciated the fact that there are no risks of attachments like affairs can have. It can get messy real quick. Besides, it is too much work to maintain. Anyway, I do not feel that visits to a legal brothels counts as affairs or cheating. In fact, I look at it like going to spa to get a long overdue massage. We all feel better afterwards. The happier mood I feel helps my marriage and love my wife more. I hope that makes sense. Thank you again for writing this!
So glad to hear your story, Robert, and that this has helped you exactly as I described! Thank you for sharing!
As a Sister Legal Courtesan ..I find this article extremely well written and sensitive to both parties ..We do provide a very good and healthy alternative to the other relationships that these men or women find themselves in that tear apart thier marriages instead of providing a release and confidential support .Well written Honey and you are very gorgeous and sweet as can be .
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