RANCH SPECIAL Reverse ED/Deathgrip syndrome/PIED (porn induced ED)

Guys, I want to talk to you about something serious for a moment. What if I told you there was something you could do before your visit to the Moonlite Bunny Ranch that could make it at least ten times better if you'll trust the advice I'm about to give you? In fact, it could make all your future sexual encounters so much better and so much more satisfying.

What is that thing you ask? It's called "death grip".

Put simply, death grip makes your penis less sensitive and it makes it harder to achieve climax. I can say, with confidence, that it's far better to be too sensitive and climax too early than it is to have to work extra hard to get there. If you're an early shooter, no worries! Trust me, there's plenty of things a sex worker can do to help you pass the time pleasantly until you're ready to go again. And if you recover quickly, you get multiple orgasms. What's the downside?

But... if you have death grip then sex becomes really frustrating for both partners. In mild cases of death grip, you can stay hard but won't climax. You might feel like you can go on forever, but eventually, your partner will get dry or even sore. And after a while, your brain, the most important sex organ of all, will say, "Nope, I'm out," and you won't achieve climax.

If your death grip is really bad, you won't be able to get hard at all. You can have the perfect setup, but your penis won't respond. It's super-frustrating and it can make you feel like you're not masculine.

I want my clients to have healthy sex lives! So, men, consider this your plan to kill your death grip.

How do you get it?

I'm going to assume you've felt a vagina before. It's soft, slick, hot, and slightly grippy, right? Now, how do most men masturbate? With their hand. Feel the inside of your hand. It's rough, dry, not as hot, and can grip much harder than any vagina could.

I think handjobs can be great, but if masturbation is your main sexual outlet and you use your hands, you are causing the nerves in your penis to go numb. When that happens, what do you do? You grip harder to get the old sensation back!

Even if you use lube with your hand, it's still not good. Why? Because it makes you grip harder than you think when it slips around. Point is, no vagina (or anus or mouth for that matter) is going to grip your penis harder than your hand can.

When you can't get it up because of death grip, two things are happening. First, your nerves are less sensitive, but there's another factor as well. Each time you use your hand, your brain links sexual pleasure to everything surrounding masturbation, including how your hand feels. You can actually make your brain prefer your hand over another person if you masturbate too much or too hard. That's scary, but you'd be surprised how much I see it in my profession.

You don't want that. I don't want to see you have it. So, how do you get rid of it? Two things:

Stop abusing your penis by either avoiding masturbation or using a lifelike sex toy like a Fleshlight or a Tenga Egg. Rewire your brain by training it to know it can get sexual satisfaction from real sex.

Let's start with the first one. Going cold turkey from masturbation is the best way to start healing your penis, but it's rough. But it can also be great fun if you know there's a huge reward at the end (hint, hint!) Men who try this can go through weird lulls of feeling super-aroused followed by feeling like nothing is happening down there.

Something that may be more tolerable is to use a lifelike sex toy. I LOVE Fleshlights for this. Hands-down the best male sex toy on the market. If you warm them up, lube them right, and keep them maintained, you'll soon find that they're so much better than your hands for masturbation.

Tenga Eggs are also good for this, but if you have death grip really badly it can get pretty expensive going through them. They're a one-use sex toy. Still, they're cheaper than a Fleshlight. Also, if you're of a greater-than-average length, go for the Fleshlight. They can handle you.

Rewiring your brain for real sex is also a bit tricky. Most men don't just masturbate to their thoughts and fantasies. They're using some kind of pornography. I'm definitely NOT anti-porn. I just did an episode of Livestream with Hannah that talks about my favorites. But porn is entertainment. It's not real sex. We have to get your brain to understand that.

So here is my plan that you can follow about a month before your visit to start working on your death grip:

Get a Fleshlight with the Lotus sleeve. The original sleeve is great, but it's not realistic enough. Also get some water-based lube. Commit to not watching porn until this process is finished. Stop masturbating for about a week. You can do it! Take an hour of private time and try out your Fleshlight. Start by warming it up as directed, then use a few drops of lube around the entrance and on your shaft. Explore the opening with your fingers. Try closing your eyes and picturing a lover who wants to ride on top of you. Have fun! Clean your Fleshlight, then put it away for another week. The next time you use it, try to rig up a way where you can thrust into it. You can wedge it between your mattress or box springs, put it in a low shoe, something so that you can go 'hands-free'. Do the same warming and lubrication process first. Four days later, have another hands-free session, then wait until the end of the third week.

After this, your penis should be a lot more sensitive. Your death grip may not be completely cured in just three weeks, but it will definitely be a little better, and you'll have a sex toy that's much better for your penis.



"PIED" stands for "Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction," and "death grip syndrome" refers to a condition associated with excessive and aggressive masturbation. Here are some facts about each of these terms:

Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED):

1. Definition: PIED refers to a condition where an individual develops difficulties in achieving or maintaining an erection due to excessive consumption of pornography.
2. Causal Relationship: The consumption of explicit sexual material, especially pornography, can lead to desensitization and overstimulation of the brain's reward system, potentially resulting in erectile dysfunction when engaging in real-life sexual encounters.
3. Psychological Factors: PIED may involve psychological aspects such as performance anxiety, unrealistic expectations regarding sexual performance, or difficulties in forming intimate connections with a partner.
4. Neuroplasticity: Frequent exposure to pornography can cause changes in the brain's neural pathways, leading to a reliance on specific visual stimuli that can make it challenging to respond to real-life sexual stimuli.
5. Reversibility: PIED is often considered reversible through a process called "rebooting" or "rewiring." This typically involves abstaining from pornography and allowing the brain to gradually reset its response to sexual stimuli. Also use the guide above!!

Death Grip Syndrome:

1. Definition: Death grip syndrome refers to a self-induced condition in which an individual habitually masturbates using excessive force, grip, or pressure that differs significantly from the sensations experienced during partnered sex.
2. Desensitization: The intense and aggressive grip during masturbation can lead to desensitization of the penis, making it difficult to experience similar sensations during sexual intercourse.
3. Delayed Ejaculation: Death grip syndrome can sometimes result in delayed ejaculation or the inability to climax during sexual activity with a partner due to the desensitized state of the penis.
4. Behavioral Factors: This syndrome is often associated with repetitive masturbation using a specific technique or pressure that deviates from normal sexual encounters.
5. Treatment: Treatment for death grip syndrome involves modifying masturbation techniques, incorporating gentler touch and sensations to retrain the body's response, and gradually reintroducing partnered sexual activities. Use the guide above!!!

It's important to note that both PIED and death grip syndrome are not officially recognized medical diagnoses, but they represent commonly observed phenomena reported by some individuals. Consulting with Sex Education professionals (such as myself, @RemyMartin and @Air Force Amy ) or therapist can provide personalized guidance and support for individuals experiencing any sexual health concerns.


Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED):

1. Understanding the Issue: PIED arises when an individual becomes so accustomed to the hyper-stimulating nature of pornography that they have difficulty achieving or maintaining an erection during real-life sexual encounters.
2. Abstinence from Pornography: The first step in addressing PIED is to abstain from pornography completely. This allows the brain to reset its neural pathways and regain sensitivity to real-life sexual stimuli.
3. Timeframe for Recovery: The recovery period varies for each individual. It may take weeks to months for the brain to rewire itself, depending on the severity of the addiction and the duration of exposure to pornography.
4. Seek Support: Engaging in a support network or seeking professional help can be beneficial. This may involve joining online communities, participating in therapy, or consulting with a sexual health expert who specializes in addiction or sexual dysfunctions.
5. Healthy Lifestyle: Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can also aid in recovery. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, sufficient sleep, and stress management can contribute to overall well-being and sexual health.

Death Grip Syndrome:

1. Changing Masturbation Techniques: Modifying the way you masturbate can help alleviate death grip syndrome. Experiment with using a lighter grip, varying strokes and pressure, and incorporating lubrication to mimic the sensations experienced during partnered sex.
2. Sensate Focus Exercises: Sensate focus exercises involve gradual desensitization and retraining of the body's responses to sexual stimuli. This technique often involves engaging in non-sexual touch, gradually progressing to sexual touch while paying close attention to sensations and focusing on the present moment.
3. Communication with a Partner: Openly discussing the issue with a partner can provide support and understanding. By communicating about the challenges faced and exploring alternative sexual activities together, it can help create a more fulfilling and pleasurable sexual experience.
4. Delayed Gratification: Practicing delayed gratification can assist in rewiring the brain's reward system. Gradually increase the duration between masturbation sessions, allowing the body to readjust and respond to natural sexual stimuli more effectively.
5. Professional Help: If self-help methods do not yield satisfactory results, it may be helpful to consult with a sexual health professional or therapist who can provide personalized guidance, exercises, and techniques tailored to your specific needs. It's important to note that both PIED and death grip syndrome are not officially recognized medical diagnoses, but they represent commonly observed phenomena reported by some individuals. Consulting with Sex Education professionals (such as myself, @RemyMartin and @Air Force Amy ) or therapist can provide personalized guidance and support for individuals experiencing any sexual health concerns.

Remember, addressing PIED and Death Grip Syndrome requires patience and commitment. It is essential to approach these issues with self-compassion and seek appropriate support when needed.

 

Hannah, thanks for posting this topic for all of us to learn from. I happen to be living with "ED" and can tell you it has caused relationship problems. My last relationship ended because I felt I couldn't really talk about what was going on with me. I have found hope in reading your post. I love that you as a woman are concerned with men's health...THANK YOU!

 

Yet another post with a wealth of information, keep them coming!